Tag Archives: Caregiving

Forgive Yourself

“Everything is clearer in retrospect. You know what or how you could have done something better when looking back. Things are not so clear or easy when you are under pressure to care for your loved one 24/7. Your responsibilities are great, and you often must perform your duties without proper rest or assistance. Most […]

Is It Normal Aging?

What It’s Like Your husband went out to run some routine errands and said he would be back in an hour. Four hours later he calls from a clerk’s phone at a convenience store across town. He doesn’t know where he’s been or where he is. This is not the first time, and it will […]

New Book to Boost Caregiver Morale

Most of us care for someone at least at one point in our lives. We tend to the needs of children, parents, and spouses. And many of us work in the field, caring for “strangers” as if they were our own family. My newest book, Inspired Caregiving. Weekly Morale Boosters, offers doses of encouragement and […]

COVID-19 Caregiving Challenges

In the best of times, caring for our loved ones with dementia can be stressful. Under the cloud of COVID-19, we can be pushed to our limits. In addition to the round the clock supervision and direction, we have the concerns about sanitation. Loved ones with dementia are typically messy in the bathroom and at […]

A Caregiver’s Prayer

This prayer says it all. We caregivers of faith pray. We pray when we get up in the morning, all day long, and throughout the restless nights. We pray for our loved one and our much-needed strength, courage, and patience. We couldn’t get through the day without knowing God is with us, guiding us, and providing […]

Leaning Forward

One of the best pieces of advice I received at the beginning of Marshall’s Alzheimer’s symptoms was not to anticipate what happens next. So many factors are involved that it’s impossible to predict the exact course. Worrying about what may never happen is pointless. One situation I never considered was Marshall requiring a walker. I […]

What Happens Next?

The path of Alzheimer’s is a downward slope. As of now, there is no cure, and there’s no getting better. As much as we understand that, it’s human nature to stop periodically and wonder what we can expect to happen next with our loved one. Most often, the answer is the same. No one can know for sure. […]

How Do You Know?

One of the most common questions I’m asked is how did I know something was wrong with my husband? How did I know it was Alzheimer’s disease? The red flag for me was the change in personality. Marshall is a happy, easy going guy. He always was, and thankfully, has been again since we figured […]

Listening with the Heart

Early in our marriage, when on long drives or walks, my husband, Marshall, and I would create stories.We’d start with a what-if, and then carry it away to another land and time. As an entertainer and a storyteller, these tales became quite fantastical. Now Marshall tells stories that are a mix of past and present, fantasy and […]

Controlled Celebrations

Today is my husband, Marshall’s birthday, and we celebrated with a small group for lunch–just my sister, Patti, brother-in-law, Parke, and daughters Lisa and Erin. Lunch time is Marshall’s best time of day as he is up and going but not yet into sundowners. And six adults at one table in a quiet corner of […]