Category Navigating Alzheimer’s

When Night Becomes Day

It was 3 am. My 21 month-old granddaughter, Isabella, tumbled over the side of her crib and padded into her parents’ bedroom. “Watch George Oooo Ahhhh Ahhh,” she asked? Translation: “Can I watch a Curious George video?” (With monkey sounds.) Toddlers, like Isabella, eventually learn the difference between night and day. They also learn that […]

What Happens Next?

The path of Alzheimer’s is a downward slope. As of now, there is no cure, and there’s no getting better. As much as we understand that, it’s human nature to stop periodically and wonder what we can expect to happen next with our loved one. Most often, the answer is the same. No one can know for sure. […]

How Do You Know?

One of the most common questions I’m asked is how did I know something was wrong with my husband? How did I know it was Alzheimer’s disease? The red flag for me was the change in personality. Marshall is a happy, easy going guy. He always was, and thankfully, has been again since we figured […]

Controlled Celebrations

Today is my husband, Marshall’s birthday, and we celebrated with a small group for lunch–just my sister, Patti, brother-in-law, Parke, and daughters Lisa and Erin. Lunch time is Marshall’s best time of day as he is up and going but not yet into sundowners. And six adults at one table in a quiet corner of […]

Laugh Together

Laughter is good medicine. It helps to boost our mood and set us on a happy track for the remainder of the day. As an entertainer, Marshall still has a need to see people laugh, and he can be quite funny. He no longer remembers the whole joke, but we are married long enough he doesn’t […]

Evicting the Most Vulnerable

According to a recent Chicago Tribune report, nursing homes are evicting their most challenging residents in large numbers. Complaints and lawsuits across the U.S. have increased about 57% since 2000 in regards to evictions. The poor and those suffering from dementia are the greatest at risk.People with dementia require more attention and trained personnel.The nursing homes claim […]

Overseeing Care

The last thing family members want is to move our loved one to a memory care home but often, that is the best option. Our loved one may need more than one person can give and are safer, happier, and better cared for by a team. Wherever our loved ones live, we are ultimately responsible for them. […]

Vanishing Act

You may have read in earlier posts on my blog, Midwest Mary, how my husband and I met. I was a freelance feature writer for the Chicago Tribune and wrote a story on magician Terry Evanswood. Terry gave me Marshall’s name as a reference. I interviewed Marshall over the phone for that article, and then […]

Caregiver Responsibilities

One of the greatest worries for family members with a loved one with Alzheimer’s disease is the possibility of no longer being able to care for them at home. The last thing we want is to move our spouse, parent, or sibling to a memory care home. It can feel as if we failed them by […]

The Battle of the Bath

If my husband had his way, he’d never shower or bathe. He says that he doesn’t need to or he just took a shower. His resistance can be quite emphatic, which is common in people with later stages of Alzheimer’s disease. Bathing is a necessary, albeit challenging, component of Alzheimer’s care. Not only do the people around us […]