Category Death and Dying

How Long Will This Depression Last?

We prayed. We bargained. We begged. God did not answer our prayer as we hoped and now we are falling into a dark pit. Depression is a common response to grief and often follows denial, anger, and bargaining. We feel powerless in our loss. Something or someone dear was taken from us and we could […]

Shedding Light on the Flickering Chandelier

The bulbs are flickering but still light the room. Outsiders rarely understand Alzheimer’s disease. If they don’t or haven’t cared for someone with Alzheimer’s 24/7 for at least a week, they presume the state of our loved one to be better or worse than it is. A few outsiders believe that a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s disease […]

God’s Instrument

Ancient cultures thought that illness was a divine punishment. The sick person or their ancestors failed God in some way and got what they deserved. Associating with someone who was diseased or who worked in an unethical job harmed other people’s health as well. They believed that if they went near someone who was sick or disabled, […]

Let’s Make a Deal

“Lord, if you help me find a job today, I promise I’ll never complain about going to work. I will go in every day with a smile on my face.” Not all losses are the same but losing a job is close to the top, because it is painful on several levels. The loss of […]

Comforting the Lonely

Remember those busy days when our families were young and on the move? People surrounded us. In addition to our friends and family, the parents of our children’s friends, neighbors, church ministries, and coworkers filled our lives. How often we wished back then for a quiet moment. As that wish becomes a reality, we can […]

All for the Lord

Saint Theodora said that we don’t need to do anything special to become saints as long as we do everything for the love of the Lord. Pope Francis noted this in a similar way in his latest apostolic letter. Until recently, the causes for sainthood in the Catholic Church included: 1. martyrdom, 2. having lived […]

Lean on Loved Ones

One of the most challenging aspects of grief is its unpredictability. We often are caught off-guard by its appearance and return. We think we are on the road to recovery. We think we are healing, or maybe even fully healed. And then it strikes again. A song, scent, or something visual can be a trigger […]

Older and More Faithful

The older we get the more we tend to pray. Faithful people say that their connection with God grows greater with age. Many reasons contribute toward this increase. We often have more time, and we definitely see the need for our children and ourselves. We want to leave a legacy of devotion and faith for […]

Exposing Children to Death

  I learned early on that death is a part of life. I come from a large Irish/Italian/German family that is constantly in flux. Birth and death are part of the life process and both are cause for celebration. We share the joy when a baby enters our circle, and as much as we miss […]