Author Archives: Mary K. Doyle

Tithing in Retirement

My husband, Marshall, was very generous when he was working. He treated family and friends often. But when he no longer worked, he cut back considerably. Despite the early signs of dementia, he understood that our financial situation drastically changed. We couldn’t spend on ourselves or our loved ones as we had for decades. Every […]

END ALZ

  The state of Illinois finally got something right. It issued a license plate to help promote awareness of the urgent need for a cure for Alzheimer’s disease. Illinois is the first and only state to have a specialty license plate supporting the Alzheimer’s Association and it’s now available to Illinois residents. The exposure of […]

Accepting the Unacceptable

Is it possible to accept something that it is the stuff of nightmares? The ultimate goal of grieving is to do just that. We come to accept the reality of a situation. However, this does not mean we like it.   Depending on what is lost, how dear it is to us, and the events […]

Behind Convent Walls

To most of my classmates at Our Lady of the Angels Catholic elementary school in Chicago, our teachers, the Sisters of Charity of the Blessed Virgin Mary, were quite mysterious. Except for their face and hands, the sisters remained hidden behind an outfit known as a habit and they all lived together in a special […]

Drifting Away

The dense crowd made it difficult to navigate to the elevator. Finally there, we rode down packed in like sardines. The doors opened, and we flooded out into another mass of humanity. Somehow, I’d let go of Marshall’s hand and couldn’t find him anywhere. I frantically dove through the crowd calling his name. I awoke […]

Heaven Awaits

Eternity with the Lord. That is one of our basic Christian beliefs. In the Apostles’ Creed, we state that we will enjoy “life everlasting.” And we spend this everlasting life with God in a place we refer to as heaven. Jesus said that the gift of everlasting life in heaven with the Lord is promised […]

How Long Will This Depression Last?

We prayed. We bargained. We begged. God did not answer our prayer as we hoped and now we are falling into a dark pit. Depression is a common response to grief and often follows denial, anger, and bargaining. We feel powerless in our loss. Something or someone dear was taken from us and we could […]

Comfort Care

Hospice. The word alone makes us uncomfortable. It prompts thoughts of death, the loss of loved ones, and our own mortality. But when we reach those points, hospice is the guide we turn to. Hospice is a special service for people with a life-limiting illness. Compassionate providers administer care in a personal home, nursing home, […]

The Next Move

Most seniors come to a point where we realize we must downsize. Our beloved home is too much for us to care for and too expensive to keep up. But where do we go? Once we receive that AARP card, our mailbox fills with promotional materials for a wide range of senior living choices. From […]

Simply Serving

One of the basic obligations of a Christian is to serve one another, Jesus came to serve (Matthew 20:28) and show us how this should be done. Jesus reached out to the sick, poor, and marginalized. He shared his wisdom with all who listened. He even washed the feet of his apostles, disciples who served him. We […]